30's

The 30's can be a strange and confusing decade in my clients' lives. They have often created goals and expectations for themselves, and if those goals (whether related to their career, romantic relationships, children, or health) are not met, they are frequently left feeling disappointed, hopeless, confused, angry, and insecure. If those goals are achieved, they are often left feeling disillusioned, bored, overwhelmed, unsatisfied or have a “now what?” attitude.

Discussing these feelings in therapy can be a rewarding way to find purpose and meaning in my clients' lives and can also provide an outlet to understand themselves more deeply and learn what is most rewarding for them. Therapy can help deconstruct roadblocks that may be inhibiting a more fulfilling and satisfying life.

I explore the following topics in therapy:

Relationship status

• Single, lonely, insecure, clock is ticking.
• What's wrong with me? Is it ever going to happen? Do I have to settle?
• Unsatisfying marriage or relationship

• Realization that the job isn't what they thought
• Feeling stuck in an unfulfilling job because of financial commitments

• Competition with friends and peers
• Differentiation in marital and income status
• Feeling “less than” or inadequate

• Feeling like a bad parent
• Feeling that one doesn't love one's kid enough
• Guilt over working too much/wanting to spend more time with the kids
• Guilt over not wanting to spend more time with kids
• Kids are out of control and causing stress

• Spouse, kids, house, job – feeling empty, unfulfilled, etc.
• Goals, ambition, motivation lacking.
  Therapist providing counseling to clients in Burlingame, San Mateo, Hillsborough, Foster City, San Carlos, South San Francisco, Daly City, and the greater San Francisco Bay Area.